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Your year, in review

Your year, in review

New Years is a perfect time to set new goals, but there is something equally important about looking at your year in review. One year holds so much: successes and set backs, things to learn from and inspire you. I like to journal about my year to acknowledge the things that didn’t go well and also revisit the good in my life. Reflection can help give you direction and clarity for what you want to do next.

Read on for tips on thinking about your year, in review, or scroll down to the free journal download to get you started.

The best things that happened this year

Think about the places you went, the people you spent time with, the beautiful things you saw. Were there times you felt completely at peace? In awe? Proud? Are there particularly special photos, videos or mementos that captured these times?

Describe and elaborate on special moments to let memories surface again. I want to give my experiences the justice they warrant. Capturing the essence of positive vibes in your life boosts your happiness now and anytime you want to go back and reminisce by looking at your writings, photos, artwork, or anything else that triggers good feelings.

Double rainbow for a positive spin on your year, in review.
Double rainbows are like memories of your year in review: you get twice the fun! Memories are awesome when you experience them and again when you reminisce.

Memories can be big and grand, but they can also be small. Keeping the times that make you smile alive is worth it.

There were so many moments that made me happy this year that I might write about:

  • Watching the fireworks from the top of a roller coaster on a warm summer night, laughing with my kids
  • Taking inappropriate pictures with statues all over Philadelphia with my friends and (again) laughing
  • Lazy nights binge-watching Game of Thrones with my husband after the kids had gone to bed
  • Eating delicious things, like the creamy ube gelato I can’t stop thinking about, crisp salad fresh from my garden, or the deep pho broth I made with the last of my steer’s bones.

I could go on and on about my gelato. The point is that thinking about these memories extends the benefit you get from your best moments. So do what you can to bring them to light again; don’t let them be packed away forever in the vault of your mind.

This year’s challenges

Everybody has goals unmet, barriers uncrossed, and unwelcome setbacks. But it is possible to move past these things in order to make new plans for how you want your life to be and feel. Blowing past the negatives takes these experiences for granted and squanders any learning opportunity you might get from them.

Rain in the gutter flows like worries, down and away from your life
When it rains it pours, but keep your life out of the gutter
  • Think about the things that didn’t go your way, but leave them in past tense–these experiences as they stand aren’t intended to be a part of your future. Even if you can’t change a negative outcome you can always reframe you attitude and have new ways for moving forward.
  • Acknowledge your feelings, worries, and hurts but let it be cathartic. Don’t carry the weight of bad energy into the next year. Sometimes writing things down and having a good sigh or cry is therapeutic.
  • Say your goodbyes to old habits and thought cycles that damaged your mood and self-worth. Make a conscious commitment to break up with the patterns that no longer suit you.

This past year I had a few stand-out struggles, as well as some disappointments. I dealt with heart issues that kept me from vigorous exercise, including my beloved long runs. I had 5 different bosses in a 9 month period, with a resulting lackluster annual review, as there was no one there to witness my accomplishments. There were arguments with my kids. My husband had to leave full time work due to a shoulder injury. But everything isn’t so bad, really. And that was this year’s issues, so it’s time to move on!

A review of the setbacks this year can be ceremonious as you move past the past. I feel more positive already, just knowing that next year won’t have the exact same problems since I have grown from my experiences.

Flat tires are a setback, but you can move on
Flat tires are like the bad stuff that happened this year: meant to be fixed so you can keep rolling.

Learning from your year and planning for the next one

In order to reframe the negatives you must give yourself credit, for being wise enough to learn from your mistakes and creative enough to come up with a new plan. I feel energized by identifying old patterns in my behavior and finding different systems that could work better.

What have you already done?

If you have already made strides for the positive, take a moment to point them out and be grateful.

Finding the gaps

  • What was missing your old way of thinking?
  • Is there new information you need? Things you must practice or study?
  • What behaviors need replacing?

A new plan

  • For every negative, think about a few positive actions you are taking (or will take) to counteract the effects. Focus on actions and habits, concrete steps you can take for the better.
  • Be specific about self discovery. If you’ve realized things about yourself or are curious about learning something new, state it. Be directive about who you are and where you want to be, starting now.
  • Look at next year as a blank slate, but take the experience and wisdom of the past forward. Be aware of ways you can build on what you have, using your strengths to your advantage.

It may feel like year in and year out your problems stay the same, but it doesn’t have to be this way. Every year has its glory days, it’s gutter balls, and it’s aha moments. But we are better for having experienced it in the first place.

Sparking new ways of fixing old problems

Want more on your year, in review?

Try this free journal download for a more structured look a your year in review.

I also have additional posts to help with New Year’s journal ideas, from reflection to goal planning.

For those who want general advice on making your dreams a reality:

Goal Journaling

On different ways to outline and thresh out your goals

New goals, 5 ways

For making a statement on the year to come

Brand your year: live your resolution for change

On keeping positive, to use when you want to move past the downturns

Make an All-Good-Things list

Brand your year: live your resolution for change

Brand your year: live your resolution for change

With a word, symbol, or phrase you might know a company’s vision. Having a brand shows what a business represents, and what they can offer. There’s no reason you can’t have your own life brand this year, and sell yourself success with progress towards a better you. Brand your year and live your resolution for change—with a vision to guide your actions and decisions toward what you want.

Many will tell you that lasting change requires hard work, setting measurable goals, and lots of sacrifice. These things have their place in self-improvement, but they don’t sound very sexy, and might make you want to quit before you even get started with a New Year’s resolution. It can also be tough to find a goal worth working for. You might already know who you want to be, or how you wish things were different, but it is hard to articulate those things in a way that brings results. Branding is one way to put a stamp of intent on the priorities that drive you.

Develop your brand

Finding your brand requires knowing what you want out of your year. Then you can focus on the essence of that want and put it into something you can remember–this will be the standard that guides you through your decisions and actions and keeps you on track.

What do you want this New Year?

You may already have an idea of what you want, but if not there are ways to find out. Answer a few questions to get the ideas flowing:

  • How do you wish things were different in your life?
  • What are the biggest obstacles to getting what you want?
  • What feelings do you want to have more of? Less of?
  • Are there experiences you want to have or avoid?
  • What are your biggest priorities?

Making a statement with your goals

Now that you’ve described the desire for change, you need to find the themes and values that exemplify your goals. It may seem challenging, but there is always a common thread, something that calls to you like a beacon of change–this should be positive, motivating, and something you can be proud of.

Blue skies, sunshine, a floating balloon. Lighten up!
This brand could mean different things to different people. To me it does not stand for skin bleaching or ~getting lit~. It means losing baggage, simplifying, and having fun.

My 2018 brand was “Lighten Up”. I felt weighted down with obligations and negative feelings. I wanted to declutter my life and ease some burdens, but have fun while doing so. Both the image and the statement I chose fit into my goals. This brand developed when I thought about what I didn’t want, as well as what I did. My idea was “heaviness = bad”, so what was the opposite? Lightness? It worked for me and felt right.

Your brand can be built upon a phrase, word, picture, quote/statement, or anything else that solidifies your priorities and intent. Pick something meaningful to you and your individual motivations–this has to be something that is personal to you. No one is going to be doing the work for you, and nobody else will make your decisions. This is your brand to own and develop.

Here are some ideas for picking your brand:

  • A song or poem that carries your theme and reminds you of what you want
  • A string of verbs that relay the actions you want to take
  • A phrase or sentence that has meaning and relevance to your plans
  • A picture or piece of art that embodies your ideal state
  • A quote that sums up your feelings or motivations

Still having problems picking something?

  • Try brainstorming all the words you can think of that describe the life you desire. Pick 1-3 of them as use these as a brand statement.
  • Write your mission for a better life a few different ways using only a sentence or two. Pick the best option as your “mission statement.”

Release your brand

Glad you’ve picked something; now make it official. Commit to this idea, no matter how you’ve chosen to represent it. This is now your mantra, so make it stick. You will want to keep the impetus for change throughout the year, so consider making reminders accessible to you. I chose both words and a visual to state my brand last year. I could refer to these later, and they helped guide my efforts.

Ideas for releasing your brand:

  • Screen saver (or ringtone/power-on sound) on your computer or phone
  • Cover for your journal, calendar, or planner. (Or an entry marking the start date.)
  • Title on your physical or virtual bulletin board
  • Post on social media announcing your year of change
  • Visual cue placed on your desk, wall, or nightstand
  • Statement to yourself as you start your new year, with reflection and thought

Whatever you do, own your choice to change and tell yourself why it is important to you. Let your brand be the guidepost for your year, and make it clear which direction you want to take.

Live your resolutions

Now that you have your brand, put it to work. It’s time to live your resolutions like you mean it, because you do. Your year now has an identity, and it’s your job to help it be what it’s meant to be. Your brand can serve your goals in different ways, so let it.

Your brand as a choice barometer

Let your brand be the standard for ideal decision-making. Measure your choices against this, and decide if they are right for you.

When confronted with taking on more projects at work this past year, I thought about whether or not the decision would fit with my goal to “lighten up!” This prevented me from taking on a few things that I maybe would’ve done automatically in the past and suffered for later.

Your brand is a reminder of what’s important to you. You’ve already made the decision to make your brand a priority, so let this decision flow into the other ones you make throughout the year. New opportunity doesn’t fit with your ideal? Maybe it’s not right for you. A decision feels right with your brand? It’s probably working for you, rather than against you!

Directions for growth

Your brand can guide you as you learn and seek new opportunities. Staying true to your brand might help you decide what books to read, people to hang out with, and activities to do. If you have a mission it is easier to choose where your energy and time should go.

I carried my brand, and what it represented, to the library with me, in my internet clicks, and on my family vacation. This let me transform my goals from ideas into action by giving me direction for growth. I wanted to learn things that would serve my intentions, and experience things that followed my vision.

This is what my brand helped me do this past year:

  1. Perform 3 rounds of house decluttering, including a big dumpster fill at the start of the year
  2. Start practicing meditation more regularly
  3. Take both a nature park family road trip and a much needed getaway with my friends
  4. Make regular breaks a part of my standard work and life routine
  5. Say no to unnecessary extra projects and hours at work
  6. Turn down job offers that were a trade of my sanity for money (and making others happy)
  7. Eliminate an external worry factor by erasing the news app from my phone
  8. Try shinrin yoku, the therapeutic practice of “forest bathing”
  9. Learn a lot about decluttering and discarding, both emotional and literal
  10. Complete over 300 miles of outdoor street and trail running

Staying motivated

As long as your choose your brand wisely, you will be better prepared for success throughout the year. It is usually easier to stay motivated at the start of a new year than it is at the end. This is because old habits die hard, and it just isn’t fun to feel like a failure all the time. Giving up can mean self-preservation. Or, sometimes our priorities change and what feels exciting at the start gets dull and needs replacing.

What helps me is to have regular check-ins about my progress. I used my brand as a theme to help guide my journal entries throughout the year, as well as nudge me on a daily basis. I use both a free-hand journal and a Panda Planner to write down my thoughts, to-dos, and to remind me of what’s important. My Panda Planner has room for Monthly, Weekly, and Daily goals. I made sure that these fit with my brand for the year.

In the past, I have used pre-scheduled action items that fit with my overall intent. Picking one mini-goal to work on each month helps prevent things from getting stale, and lets you spread your efforts over the year.

As for habits, just remember to make your choices in line with your brand. If you want to work on specific routines, be true to your mission and be ruthless about it.

Get inspired

Although you want to keep the energy flowing for 12 more months, it is nice to take advantage of this New Year’s momentum. There is no better time to get ideas written down and talk to people about your plans.

This year, I will be making a new Pinterest board (just like last year) that gives me ideas for what I want to do. I also plan to map out some mini-goals for each month and make a list of things I would like to accomplish (in line with my new brand, of course). Visit my post New Goals, 5 Ways for more banter on fleshing out your ideas.

Just because you have a big picture plan doesn’t mean you can’t work on the details too. The brand should work like a lens that you can focus in and out of: zoom out when you need perspective and to remind yourself of what you want. Zoom in when you want to make real change by taking concrete actions that are in line with your vision

The New Year’s brand I’ve chosen this time is “I’m ready.” This should fall somewhere between the tenaciously annoying Sponge Bob version and the warrior’s strength of je suis prest (Jamie from Outlander‘s clan motto). Either way, it’s about thinking ahead and setting myself up for success on a daily basis, and in my life overall. It’s about being less reactive, more prepared, and open to new opportunities.

Here are some brands I also considered:

Making Space—carving out time, energy, and physical space for what I want to do

Level Up—taking accomplishments to the next eschelon by setting higher goals where it matters most

Hygge (the Scandinavian concept of coziness)—celebrating authenticity, relishing in simplicity and comfort, and feeling at home in my life

Where can your brand take you?

Is my life perfect after branding my year? No. Do I always stay on track with my brand and what it stands for? No, but I mostly do. Is branding my year worth it? Totally. Even though it’s nerdy and can seem overly simple, it is a technique that CAN work to help you stay on track.

Businesses have built success with their brands by knowing what they stand for and marketing appopriately. Know what you stand for. Remind yourself often. And stay true. Do these things and you have a chance at success too.

New goals, 5 ways

New goals, 5 ways

Want to make a New Years resolution but don’t know how to start? I’ve used various methods to beginning new goals, and the one you choose isn’t as important as just getting started, and to stop procrastinating. Here are 5 different ways to start the change engine before January 1st:

1. Tic-tac-toe goal board

Grid with 9 boxes, tic-tac-toe style, with 9 goal categories
Use this format to set goals on the macro level to organize your thoughts. Break a big goal into different categories or steps.

This method works great for categorizing steps to a complex goal, or for working on many goals simultaneously. Draw a tic-tac-toe grid on a piece of paper. Create up to 9 separate goals or categories to work on. Go deeper and add at least 3 steps to each category. This simple board fits a lot of goal meat into one page, and isn’t too overwhelming to create. You can use this organizational structure to track your progress on different facets of wellness throughout the year.

Tic-tac-toe grid with micro goals
Keep using your grid categories throughout the year to make changes on the micro level: your themes can guide your action items. Checking in with your macro goals at regular intervals and creating to-do items each day, week, or month means real progress.

2. One imperative

A spaghetti diagram for the goal of getting good sleep
Work like a mad detective and solve the mystery of attaining your most important goal, by leaving no stone unturned and talking to yourself while writing frantically.

If you are tractor-beaming on a very specific goal, this is a good way to go. Start with a mind map diagram centered on the one thing you want to work on. Brainstorm all the ways this goal touches your life, along with possible ways to make it a reality. Make sure to exhaust your list of associations and leave no idea behind. Show how different components of your actions affect each other. This will give you a map to trying anything and everything possible before even thinking about giving up. After you’ve made your diagram, pick a few change ideas to implement immediately.

3. Dream board

Screen shot of a digital dream board on Pinterest. Pinned pictures include recipes, exercises, and minimalist home decor
Digital or physical dream boards can give you inspiration

Did you ever do this as a kid, where you took a physical bulletin board and pinned up the pictures, notes, and knickknacks that reminded you of your dreams? You can make a physical board or commission a space in your house for displaying ideas and inspirational pieces. Looking at these will help you stay on track and keep your goals at the forefront of your mind.

Dream boards can also be digital. Pin images, webpages, videos, and articles that will motivate and prepare you. The more visual, the better. It’s like a catalog for selling yourself success.

4. Journaling for change

Composition book labeled “top secret secrets, dream diary-ah”

Dedicate a notebook or digital file to making changes in your life for the better. Open the first page and start writing about what you want, where you want to be, and how you might get there. By the end of your first writing session you might have an idea of what to do next.

Commit to checking in with yourself at regular intervals and writing about your progress. When you are feeling stuck or confused go back and read about what you’ve accomplished so far and what mistakes you’ve already made. This reflection gives objective insight into your own life and you can learn from your own experiences.

5. Brand your year

Blue skies, sunshine, a floating balloon. Lighten up!
My 2018 theme is “lighten up!” This brand could mean different things to different people. To me it DOES NOT stand for skin bleaching or huffing helium. It means losing personal baggage, simplifying, and having fun.

Pick a theme for the changes you want to make this year and build your efforts around it. The theme can be a phrase, a song, an object, a single idea, an emotion. Think of the ways you can express this theme in your actions, environment, relationships, and write them down.

Anchor your brand for change by connecting the physical element with the ideological. What you wear, eat, read, watch, and do should  align with the feelings and thoughts you want to cultivate. Set this year apart from the others by giving it an identity—one that you can be proud of.

No matter how you decide to commit to your goals, congrats for being the kind of person who wants to live life to the utmost. Happy New Year and best of luck 🥂.